On Grieving

FOR ANYONE FACING GRIEF. ONE WAVE AT A TIME.

I didn’t write this. I found it on Reddit a few years ago, after my father passed away. Regardless, it’s the best written piece on grief I’ve ever come across.

There is nothing ZENish about this per se, but at the same time, it’s completely ZENish. 🙏🏼

Photo by Guillaume de Germain on Unsplash

I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes.

“My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to pe…